The Posse of Angels is starting today’s newsletter with a
question, “Who Are You?” and they wish you to take a few moments to answer “I
Am ______" and fill in the blank.
For some of you, the
answer will come easily and there may be others who will pause before
responding. When I have posed the question, “Who Are You?” to my clients, their
answers have been as varied and unique as their set of fingerprints. Many
clients chose to finish that sentence by stating their profession i.e. I am a
teacher, I am a lawyer, I am a nurse, I am retired etc. Others responded
by stating their relationship status i.e. I am a grandparent, I am
married, I am a stepfather, and the one that I heard countless times from
women, I am only
a housewife and a mother; as if being a housewife and a mother was not of great
importance.
And then there were others who when asked to
answer this question, actually started to well up with tears and they found it
very difficult to respond as they stated that they did not know who they were.
This past week, I had a beautiful new client who broke down during
her session and told me that she had lost her identity and needed help in
finding out who she was. After marrying, it was discovered that her husband was
ill and throughout their marriage she cared for him. In addition to nursing her
husband, she had been quite busy with fund raising. With the passing of her
husband several years ago, she no longer was his caregiver, and she had stopped
all her fund raising activities. When I asked her, why she thought that
she had lost her identity, she said that when people find out she no longer
works or does anything, she feels that people are judging her.
And if you have physically lived on this Planet within the past
200 years, and that includes all of us, then you have lived being programmed by
the energies of the Piscean Age. This past Age was one of logic
and reason; viewing ourselves solely through the eyes of concrete
justifiable rational evidence. Things like our titles, certifications, and
qualifications determined who we were, and whether we were someone of
substance, worth associating with. One could say that the quote, “I do,
therefore I am”, would be representative of the Piscean Age.
With the cross over into the Age of Aquarius, we see each other
through very different eyes. The importance of degrees, what college we
attended and our grade point average all hold less sway compared to a person’s
energies of love, unity and harmony that they hold in their hearts.
When the Posse of Angels heard that she thought others were judging
her, they shared that she would be surprised how very little time others spent
thinking how she chose to live her life. And they were quick to add that this
was more a matter of human nature, rather than a reflection of her worth and
value.
She then replied, “You know, when you first asked me, ‘Who Are You?’ In
that moment, I thought about saying that I am a painter because I love to
paint, but you know, I am not very good at it.”
The Posse
of Angels was quick to reply, “When did determining our 'I Am' get caught up
with whether we consider ourselves to be proficient at something. For instance,
someone may look at a Picasso and be in rapture as they extol his genius. And
yet someone else who does not fancy viewing women painted as dogs with three
breasts, may not be as complimentary. Our tastes in Art are very personal and
subjective, and so it is with determining our perception of 'Who We Are' and
our self-worth.
I remember living in New York City
in the early 80’s as my ex husband accepted a job at a Wall Street Law Firm.
This was the decade of the Super-Moms who leapt tall building in a single
bound, climbed up the corporate ladder with the baby on their hip, and wore
power suits while cleaning their spotless homes. They simply did it all. Having
the choice whether or not to work, I chose to devote all my time to raising my
daughter. With my ex being new to the firm, I was looking forward to attending
a cocktail party to introduce the new influx of lawyers. Standing in groups,
drinks in hand, we were introduced. One of the impeccably dressed women
lawyers asked me what I did. I enthusiastically gushed and exclaimed how much I
loved taking care of my 2 year-old daughter and all the fun mommy, toddler
things we did together. While I was speaking, I saw the invisible shutters come
down over her eyes, as she yawned and looked at her watch. Glancing over
the room, she interrupted me in a distracted tone, “That’s fantastic, you must
excuse me.” as she could not escape quick enough. Feeling the sting
of being judged and not good enough because I did not work, I cried myself to
sleep that night.
This feeling of not measuring up ate
away at my soul so much that I vowed that if I ever had the chance, I would say
something very different when someone asked what I did. I would show others
that I was worthy and deserving of being someone.
Well, the
next opportunity came with a formal dinner party in the spring. All dressed up,
I was well rehearsed with what I was going to say. And when I was introduced to
someone and they asked me what I did, I proudly said without hesitation, “I am
a classically trained pianist.” which, by the way was correct as I was given
classical music lessons throughout my childhood and also as a teenager.
Suddenly, this person in front of me came alive, leaned forward and said, “I
absolutely adore classical piano, what is your piano of choice?” Thrilled that
he was engaged in a response, I replied, “I love my antique 1901 Steinway
baby grand.” which was also true. And then it was like the floodgates were
opened as this lawyer enthusiastically shared, “ There are many out there who
say Bosendorfs and Bechsteins are the Rolls Royce of pianos, but I am in
complete agreement with you, as I too love Steinways. Did you see Alicia Dela
Rocha play Rachmaninoff’s 3rd piano concerto at Carnegie Hall? The way she
married the dark shades and the light shades of the piece…. well it was sheer
genius and I would almost
say the best performance ever, if I had not been treated to the Russian genius
Evgeny Kissin’s brilliant interpretation with the National Symphony Orchestra
when I was in Washington DC litigating a very, very important case. Of course, and I
might be dating myself, but I did see Horowitz when I was a young boy……” and he
continued on and on scarcely drawing breath, not allowing me to get a word in
edgewise. He was mesmerized by the sound of his own voice; hearing himself
pontificate and extol his extensive knowledge of classical music.
As the bell chimed for us to move into the dining room, he took my
hand and shook it profusely and said, “It has been such a pleasure speaking
with you, and I can’t remember when I have had a more enjoyable conversation.”
Watching him walk into the dining room, I noted that I had only said about 14
words to him, and for the rest of the time I listened attentively while he
rabbited on.
This was a very important lesson for me to
take note of that it truly does not matter what people think about us, for that
is not our concern; it matters more how we feel about ourselves.
So when someone asks you "Who are You?" you can
always choose to smile your widest grin and baffle them with, “I Am Joy",
"I Am Peace", "I Am Love"
or feel free to use one of my favorites,
“I
Am Extraordinary!”
But when you proclaim your
"I Am" in this way just be prepared for others who are stuck in
the old paradigm of identifying themselves solely by what they do and
produce, to gaze at you in awe and secretly want what you are having.
Choosing
to remain 'extraordinary' until next newsletter, I bid you..
Love
and Angel Blessings,
Candy XXX
Claire Candy Hough
Author of ‘Angels of Faith’
Licensed Reiki Master/Teacher // Angel Practitioner
International Radio Host // CEO of Angel Healing House
Ph: +61 831.277.3716
SKYPE: candy.hough
1 comment:
It is astounding how we tend to undervalue who we really are. When asked the question " Who Are You " my mind goes back to being told not to be bold, do not blow your own trumpet , remember your manners !! Well from growing up with the reminders of good manners , I would answer who are you with saying I am Glennis , pleased to meet you ! I no longer have to have validation all the time from others though the ego steps in sometimes seeking more !
Loved reading your blog , is good to ask of self the question Who Are You and in so doing not have to pretend
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