Forgiveness Opens Doors of Magic

Here we are, one quarter of the way into 2013 and I can hardly contain myself, as we are about to experience this magical month of April. Now some of you may be asking, “Why is it so magical?” Well, it will be magical for those who have chosen to live authentically, and chosen to be happy over being right. Those of us who have been crystal clear about honoring our heartfelt dreams, have cleared negative emotions and dishonoring people from our lives, and have chosen to creatively bring forth our unique gifts with great passion, will begin to see very tangible results of our desires manifesting in our physical realities. I am wiggling with excitement how all of this is going to alchemically come together. Now some of you may be thinking, “But what if I haven't done all of the above? Do I miss out on the magic?” Well, I can tell you that life is not a race, but it is the journey that matters. And for that journey to be all that you could possibly desire, it is tantamount to focus on the above points to see where they are not being addressed in your life. This first quarter of 2013 was crucial for our forward movement. For during that time, many people finally felt drawn to forgive others and themselves. The Posse of Angels is applauding us for taking this all important step. In many cases, it doesn’t matter how spiritual we are, forgiving others can be a very difficult area to address. But the Posse of Angels really urges you to look at forgiveness from an angel’s perspective. When it comes to forgiveness, the most important thing to remember is not what a person says or does. The most important thing to remember is that if that person is in your life, you contracted for that soul to be there. In fact, the road to forgiveness starts with taking responsibility for the appearance of everyone who is in your life. And not only did you contract for that soul to be in your life, you chose their characteristics as well. Now The Posse of Angels knows that for many people this is really hard to believe; especially if that person has abused you and if they were controlling, judgmental, dishonoring and basically 'done you wrong'. But they are saying that you contracted this Divine soul and their contrasting, controlling natures, to push you to be authentic and speak up for yourself. By forgiving others, we don’t condone, tolerate or allow any disrespectful behavior. We are just choosing to stop the suffering of carrying the burden of un-forgiveness anymore. We forgive for our own benefit; as we truly cannot control anyone else’s actions or the choices that they make. There are many people who may see forgiveness as a sign of weakness when, in actual fact, to quote Mahatma Gandhi, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” The Posse of Angels is chiming in here saying that unless we forgive others, we cannot fully put to rest the memory of any less than desirable relationships or events which have happened. And by not finding closure with forgiveness, then we simply cannot move forward, freely with our lives. (The Posse of Angels is adding that un-forgiveness actually closes us down to fully being open to receive and realize our wishes and dreams coming true.) One of most extraordinary stories that I experienced came as a direct result of taking responsibility and forgiving another person. In 1998, after 22 years of experiencing abuse in my marriage, I had no-self-worth; as I had allowed myself to become anorexic, co-dependent, and controlled. When I finally built up the courage to end my abusive marriage, I was so frail and disempowered that I really did not have the emotional strength to fight my powerful, very clever ex who was a lawyer. I basically let him set the terms of the financial settlement. He structured the settlement in such a way that the first part of the agreement would happen after a year and then, he would determine when the second part of the settlement would occur. Now, you’re probably thinking, how could she have possibly allowed this? But I can tell you, I was not awakened and the same person that honors and respects herself today. Thinking that after a lifetime of devotion and servitude to my husband and raising our two children, the second part of the financial settlement would certainly come in a reasonable amount of time. I waited and saw the end of 1999, the end of the year 2000, 2001, and 2002 with absolutely no communication from my ex. He would not receive my phone calls or correspondence on the matter; as he had been given free rein to structure the open terms of the agreement. It was at the beginning of 2003 that I was at the lowest point in my life physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. They say that when we are at our lowest, there is nowhere else to go, but up. It was at this time that I decided to let go and allowed the grace of God to enter my life. I remember one evening, I had just finished meditating, and I felt this overwhelming compunction to compose a letter to my ex. In the letter, I stated that I felt that is was about time that I told him how grateful and appreciative I was for the life of wealth and beautiful opportunities that his hard work had afforded myself and our children. I thanked him for the beautiful homes we lived in, the children’s school tuitions that we could so easily afford, the wonderful international trips that we were able to take, and the many forms of entertainment that we were privileged to take advantage of. I thanked him for his dedication to his work, and the sacrifices that he made in order to provide for us. In the letter, I stressed how grateful I was for his efforts and did not write one word about his controlling, emotional and mental abuse. Before I sent the letter off, I quietly called in my higher self and I also called in my ex’s higher self. I acknowledged that I had written him in the contract of my life to help me learn my lessons. I thanked him for giving up part of his incarnation and playing a contrasting role, so that I would really honor myself. I blessed him for exactly where he chose to be on his path of life and then I released and forgave him. I remember surrounding him in green healing light and then I sent him waves of pink clouds of unconditional love. Posting the letter the next day, I continued to forgive him in my daily meditations and sent him green healing light and the pink light of unconditional love. It was one week later that I received a call, out of the blue, from my ex’s lawyers saying that $250,000 would be deposited in my bank account that afternoon. Was this merely a coincidence? The Posse of Angels are shaking their heads ‘no’ and saying that it simply comes down to the Universal Laws of cause and effect. Because I decided to come home to the spiritual wisdom inside of myself and lovingly forgave a fellow soul from my heart, I basically chose to live my Divine eternal nature. And by doing so, I allowed the full measure and magic of the Divine to enter my life. Wishing you all kinds of magical doors opening up in April! Love and Angel Blessings, Candy Writer Licensed Reiki Master/Teacher Angel Practitioner International Radio Host Author of "Angels of Faith" CEO of Angel Healing House Ph: +61 831.277.3716 SKYPE: candy.hough candy@angelhealinghouse.com www.angelhealinghouse.com http://www.blogtalkradio.com/angel-healing-house www.linkedin.com www.facebook.com/angelhealinghouse https://twitter.com/angelhealing

Children, From An Angel's Perspective

If there is one word that I would use to describe what many of us were focused on in February, it was the word forgiveness. It was as if we were taking all of the spiritual knowledge and wisdom that we knew in theory and decided as a collective to personally employ it in our lives. With many of us having finally released forgiveness, this unblocked negative energies and started the alchemical magic of opening doors of amazing opportunities to enter our lives. Anticipating very new beginnings for ourselves, we feel like we are at a crossroads between our past and our future. Many of us feel a freedom akin to being a child under the direction of our parents and longing to be independent to make our own decisions. And when that day finally comes to leave the nest, we step forth; no longer beholden to our past, and finally feeling liberated and all grown up. By forgiving ourselves and others, many of us have taken grown up responsibility for the roles that we chose to play in our present incarnation. By taking accountability for our part in the experiences that we have had with different souls, many can clearly see how we may not have respected ourselves and allowed others to take advantage of, disempower or dishonor us. With this in mind, the first 2 months of the year saw many drawing a proverbial line in the sand. By standing in our Truth, empowered, and all grown-up, many of us chose to take responsibility and no longer have dishonoring people in our lives. The Posse of Angels, my angelic family, is chiming in here and saying that the attrition rate of friends, even long standing friends, was enormous. For in this all important year of 2013, we can no longer be inauthentic in any area of our lives and allow anyone to disrespect us. But what happens when that person that is disrespecting and dishonoring us is ones’ grown child? I recently was presented with this question by a client who came for a healing session. Jean, not her real name, had told me that she had been a devoted loving mother to her daughter and she admitted that her daughter’s birth was one of the happiest days of her life. Yet along with the joy of motherhood, she also told me that had she endured an abusive marriage for 26 years because she did not want her child to experience a broken home. But after a lifetime of abuse, Jean finally honored herself and decided to divorce when her daughter was grown at the age of 20. Jean was prepared for the challenges she would have to face financially and emotionally to end her long standing marriage from her husband. But what she was not prepared for was the abuse and dishonor that came from her daughter. Jean said that although she was loving and respectful toward her daughter, her daughter hurled abusive comments at her and treated her with disrespect. Jean went on to say that the comments were so awful that she would not have expected this kind of behavior from her worst enemy. Through tear filled eyes, Jean said that several years ago her daughter chose to sever all ties with her and recently, she found out that her daughter was getting married and Jean was not invited to the wedding. Deeply downhearted that she would not see her only daughter wed, she asked how she could best deal with her daughter’s decisions without destroying her own soul. I answered Jean’s question in part, by reading her a portion from a book entitled, ‘The Prophet’ by Khalil Gibran. Written in 1923, this book is just as fresh and relevant in today’s world. In his section on children, he writes: “Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you, but not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward, nor remains with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children, as living arrows, are sent forth”. I went on to explain to Jean that once the arrow is shot from the safety of an archer’s steady, guiding bow, the arrow must then fly forth on its own and has to deal with all kinds of things along its journey. Things like how the arrow deals with weather conditions or obstacles that blocks its’ path, are all unknown quantities, and can only be addressed once the arrow leaves the safety of the bow. And so it is with our grown children. They are not yours and the reason one is experiencing any kind of hurt, disappointment, or frustration with one’s grown children is that one is assuming some sort of expectation that should come from their child. Perhaps one assumes that with all that they sacrificed for their children and gave to them, they should act or speak in a certain way. My angelic family, The Posse of Angels is saying that there are no ‘shoulds’,’ no ‘have to’s’ or no ‘ought to’s’ in this world. The more we respect, honor and allow someone else, including our grown children, to walk their journey exactly as they choose, the more we free ourselves then to walk our journey; unencumbered by expectations. And while we allow them grown up freedoms in their choices, I told my client that if a grown up child’s behavior is not respectful towards us, then it would be highly beneficial to draw boundaries and set limits, and not allow the child to dishonor us in any way; just like we would do with any other person in our life. I explained to Jean that her daughter’s actions and what she says actually have nothing to do whatsoever with Jean. The anger, sadness and pain inside her child are emotions that she is choosing to replay and hang onto in order for her to be right, and to justify her disrespectful behavior towards her mother. I shared with her that I have counseled many divorced couples and families, and while it is not emotionally easy for anyone, in time with mutual respect, and open understanding, all parties have been able to move forward and honor each other’s choices. To help us allow our children to make their own choices, I pointed out to my client that is helps enormously to understand why that child is in our lives from a higher perspective. The Posse of Angels is reminding us that before we incarnated, each and every one of us met with the Etheric Council. This is a wise sage group of Ascended Beings who once lived on the Earth plane. Having had the benefit of experiencing a human life, they help us to write our contract for our incarnations in our Book of Life. As we begin our contract, we pick not only the souls that we want to be in our lives to help us learn our lessons; but we choose their characteristics as well. And though it is hard to believe, many times we will choose a soul’s characteristics to be in great contrast to our own. Our most important lessons often come as a direct result of having chosen someone with a deep contrasting character. These deep contrasts help to challenge and test us to see whether we will still forgive and love that person unconditionally. (Now, The Posse of Angels wants to make it very clear here that one does not have to accept or put up with someone’s damaging behavior in order to love and forgive them.) When I asked Jean to consider that she chose her daughters behavior to help her in some way, she actually started to smile. She said that in her abusive marriage, she never could speak up for herself and she was a silent victim. But she told me that from the moment her daughter could speak, the daughter was outspoken and forthright. Jean used to marvel at her young empowered daughter and she found herself wishing that she was more like her. I laughed and told her that many times, by our children we will be taught. But as our children become grown adults, they are just like the arrow that needs to go forth and fly unaided by the archer. Yes, we can give them love, support, and even the occasional kind hearted advice, but ultimately they are not our children. They are separate souls with their own Divine imprint and they need to have the freedom of choice that we struggled and pushed so hard for as young adults. Once Jean understood to let go of any expectations from her grown child, she felt as if a huge burden had lifted from her shoulders and experienced a new found freedom. And even with all of these angel insights, my client Jean will still not be at her daughter’s wedding; for she has no control over this. But what she does have control over is whether she chooses to destroy her soul with sadness or whether she chooses to send her daughter prayers of love, healing, and wishes for a blessed heavenly marriage. By sending her daughter these loving energies, Jean will be giving a beautiful gift, not only to her daughter, but to herself and to the Planet as well. Feeling so much better, more empowered and in control after our session, I told Jean that on the day of her daughter’s wedding to plan something special for herself. I suggested that she go out and celebrate not only the gift of motherhood that she chose, but to celebrate how much of a wonderful, loving mother she was to her daughter. And that, she has full control over. Love and Angel Blessings, Claire Candy Hough Writer Licensed Reiki Master/Teacher Angel Practitioner International Radio Host Author of "Angels of Faith" CEO of Angel Healing House Ph: +61 831.277.3716 SKYPE: candy.hough candy@angelhealinghouse.com www.angelhealinghouse.com http://www.blogtalkradio.com/angel-healing-house www.linkedin.com www.facebook.com/angelhealinghouse