Love of Self

With one of my radio shows scheduled for Tuesday mornings at 11am, I took note that it was Valentine’s Day, and centered the topic around Love of Self. Actually, the angels were very amused with the whole Valentine’s Day thing. They asked me, “Why don’t humans have a National Breathing Day?” and “Why isn’t there a National Beating of your Heart Day?” Both of these things happen naturally and most of the time they occur without us realizing it. I guess their point is that to love and to be loved is a natural thing that all human beings have, and that we can have love in our lives in any second that we choose. But most of the time, we are so dead set on preaching to the Universe how love is supposed to be in our lives, that we diminish and close off the possibilities of how and when we can experience love. If we buy into the vision of love perpetuated by the greeting card companies, the chocolate makers, the florists and the jewelers, we can get caught up in a very commercialized form of love that is built around conditions and expectations. For instance, some of these conditions might be that: • my partner loves me if he buys me flowers. Or, • if he really loves me, he will buy me flowers and a diamond ring. Or, • if he truly loves me the most, he will buy me flowers, a diamond ring, a new Ferrari and a villa in the South of France. The whole point is that once we start to play this game, it is difficult to know where to stop. You might be chuckling to yourself, but there was a time in my life that I was associated with people who were just like this. They were so caught up in climbing the social ladder of ‘who could acquire the most’ that they were materially blinded to anything remotely associated with feeling rich by connecting to their free emotion of love within. Appropriating a single day to show love is so insanely ludicrous because at the most profound depth of whom we are as human beings, is the fact that WE ARE LOVE in every single second! In fact, we are so inextricably linked with God that even if we do not think we are love, this connection of divine love always exits underneath any false premise that we choose to perpetuate. And if it is dormant and asleep within us, love can be re-awakened in the blink of an eye. And counter to what all the great romance novels and romantic movies have shown us, love does not happen because of who we are with, love happens because of who we are. But, it can only happen with our permission. Many times , we deny that we are love because we are replaying old programming of taking to heart someone else’s words that caused us to feel not worthy, not deserving or like we somehow didn’t measure up. But deep within, underneath any negative belief system, regardless of what you have done, what you have received and who you are, the angels want to remind you that you are: More Beautiful , more Powerful and more Magnificent than you could possibly ever imagine. Just for the record, my Posse of angels and I want to remind you that you are a child of God and adored and loved, not only on a specific day, but on every single second of every single day, month and year since you were born and before you were born. This is not dependent on what you are given, what you own, what you drive, what you wear or if you ever produce, achieve or even create anything. This love is indisputable, unconditional, constant and un-wavering. How extraordinarily fortunate are we!!! If your life is not representative of these words, it is because you have forgotten who you are and are allowing external expectations and conditions to dictate how and if you are to be loved. Actually the hardest I have ever seen the angels weep, is for those clients who have completely forgotten who they are; as they are denying their divine love inside. Because when we forget who we are, we stop loving ourselves and stop seeing ourselves as having any importance. Once we stop acknowledging our importance, we then begin to seek and find our identity in other people and things outside of ourselves. This is giving our power away. Over the last 10 years, through my business, Angel Healing House, I have lost count of all the clients who have gone through relationship breakdowns that have said that they need their ex to feel loved; as they feel so empty without them. The clients are rightfully empty as most of their relationships were co-dependent and they did very little to nurture and nourish their own self-worth. Once their partner leaves them, they fall pretty heavily, as they have been leaning on the other person for their sense of love. One of the greatest ways that I find to keep reminding me about ‘Love of Self’ is by honoring and respecting who I am. I do this by honoring and encouraging my unique gifts and talents. You know, there might be others out there with similar gifts, but there never has been another me, with my set of unique fingerprints. And nobody does things in quite the same way that I do them. This reminds me of when I wrote my beloved book ‘Angels of Faith.” I could have said, “Why write a book, there already have been lots of books written about angels.” But I knew in my heart that there never had been, never is and never will be another book written with the same energies and intention that mine was written with. Once you allow this feeling of uniqueness to permeate through you, you begin to value your contribution to yourself, others and to the Planet. You begin to see yourself as an integral part of life and you find joy in making yourself a priority. Not at the expense of anyone else, but you begin to see that your dreams and desires are just as significant as any others. So remember, if you were disappointed by Valentine’s Day or any other day, ask yourself where in your life that you can put more focus and attention on the creation of your importance. Perhaps you could: Write that book that you have inside yourself? Dare to switch to a more honoring job? Honor your gifts and talents and share them with the world. And if your woke up Valentine’s morning and did not find your new Ferraris parked in your garage, or your breakfast tray did not come with two plane tickets to your villa in the South of France, remember that love is not something that you are given or have to search for, love is something that you already are. Until next time, remember that by having a life-long love affair with yourself, it will constantly bring you the richest fulfillment from the inside out. Love and Blessings, Claire Candy Hough 831 277 3716 candy@angelhealinghouse.com www.angelhealinghouse.com